Relationships may be more complicated than ever, but the eternal truth is, sex is - and should be - good. In order to help you get the most out of your sex life, you need advice from experts on both sides of the bed: Martin Downs, M.P.H., and Victoria Zdrok, Penthouse Pet and Ph.D.



A reader asks:

I hooked up with a girl who's into breast-biting. The first time she told me to do it, I did, and she came like crazy. The problem is, she says I'm too gentle. Aren't a woman's breasts supposed to be sensitive? Could this woman be impervious to pain? I don’t want to cause any damage to her.



Dr. Z answers:

When it comes to nipple sensitivity, every woman (and man) is different. Some like their nipples licked and sucked gently, while others prefer harder stimulation, like nibbles and even bites. For many women, nipples have a direct connection to their clit; some women can even climax from nipple stimulation alone. Your girl may have a little masochistic inclination, or she may just need that much stimulation. Her nipples may be naturally less sensitive, or she may have desensitized them with rough play or nipple clamps. Many women have less sensitive nipples after breast-feeding. In fact, their nipples may be accustomed to a good deal of abuse. Don't be afraid to give her what she wants, or she will find someone else who will happily oblige.



Dr. Downs answers:

Yes, breasts are extremely sensitive to pleasure and pain. When you bite her, it definitely hurts. It probably hurts a lot. But some people get off by mixing pain with pleasure, and this woman is one of them. I fully appreciate your fear of doing injury to her, as well as your reluctance to mar her pretty breasts with black-and-blue bite marks. But if there's anything you can do to make your lover come like crazy, you should do it. Even if you don't understand it, even if you find it distasteful, do it.