Anonymous asks:
Is there any particular sexual position that most girls orgasm in? One girl told me it’s better when she’s on top. Another told me it’s better for her doggie-style. But my current girlfriend told me her orgasms are most intense when her feet are up in the air. What’s the deal?
Martin Downs, M.P.H, answers:
What’s the deal, indeed. If I knew, I’d be more famous than Kinsey and Einstein put together; as it is, not enough is known about the female orgasm to say anything about “most” women. I can, however, talk about “many” women.
Many women will come if the position is right. For many other women–estimates range from 20 to 30 percent–the old in-and-out, by itself, never does the trick. But many of those women can come with a tongue, fingers, or a vibrator on the clitoris. Just about any sex position, with a little jostling, could allow her, or you, or maybe a third party if you’re so inclined, to assist with the clit.
For decades, sex researchers have been brawling over the true source of the female orgasm. Some argue that the clitoris is the root of all orgasms, and that the vaginal G spot is a myth. That baffles and sometimes infuriates women who are sure they have such a spot, and that they can have orgasms without involving the clitoris. Even Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg, the sexologist credited with discovering the G spot, never suggested that it was a master key to the female orgasm. Sixty years ago, Gräfenberg wrote, “Innumerable erotogenic spots are distributed all over the body, from where sexual satisfaction can be elicited; these are so many that we can almost say that there is no part of the female body which does not give sexual response, the partner has only to find the erotogenic zones.”
Rather than worry about which spot or sexual technique gives pleasure to most women, focus on the one you’re with. What makes her come might be different from what you’d expect, but don’t question it.
Dr Z. answers:
When it comes to the Big O, every woman is different. Some women love being on top, as it puts them in control and they can rub their clit against their partner’s pubic bone just the way they like it. Others like a variation on the missionary position where the man rides “higher in the saddle,” alternating between rubbing her clit with his pubic bone and gentle thrusting. Women who get off from G-spot stimulation coupled with some domination often prefer the hair-pulling, butt smacking doggie-style position. My personal favorite is on my back with my butt propped up with a pillow, my feet up in the air, and my knees up to my chin. This position gives my G spot just the right stimulation and permits eye contact and kissing, which for me intensifies the ultimate O.
The only way to find out what your woman truly likes is to try all of the above. Think of yourself as an erotic Jacques Cousteau, an explorer of the female form and function. Dive right in and enjoy the adventure.
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